The One We Forgot to Love

Sandy Totten

This is Sandy’s first novel. It debuted in April 2022.


Will a mother’s love save her family or destroy it?

Addie finds the fairy tale life she’s dreamed about: loving husband, two amazing children, satisfying career. She has what every woman wants, yet something isn’t right. That something starts small, but over the years grows into a force that threatens to shatter her world.

The silent stalker lurking in our minds knows no bounds. Mental illness has destroyed many lives and will continue to do so.

The One We Forgot to Love  is Sandy Totten’s first novel. Reflecting back on her own life experience, she weaves the fictional story of one who battles the invisible opponent and the loved ones who share her struggles. It is a heartwarming tale of a loving family, learning to see the world from different perspectives and fighting to stay together against all odds.

The novel is suitable for teens as well as adults.

Get The One We Forgot to Love now. Read it. Share it with friends and family. We never know who is suffering in silence, and this story might just trigger the conversation that saves a life.

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Below are reviews sent directly to the author. They may or may not be found at Amazon and Goodreads, but we’d like to share them here. We used only first names to identify the reviewer.

Kerry: I sat down tonight and read your book cover to cover. Such a powerful, relatable, insightful novel. So very well done. This is a must read, far and wide. Brilliant job!

Natalie: I couldn’t put it down. I was always an avid reader my whole life but this is the first book I’ve read in over 15 years. Life got too busy. I really enjoyed the book.

Tammy: I loved your book. I laughed, I cried; I felt every emotion under the sun. The different perspectives from each person in the family gave such insight to how we all handle and see/feel situations differently, and the lines at the end, “You can’t have the wonderful moments without the pain. We learn from the harder moments, don’t we? I learned I need to see the beauty in times of grief.” is perfect. Love, love, love your book.

Stephanie: I just finished it. I laughed, I cried, I got mad, I laughed and cried some more. What a beautiful story. It was so touching. You can feel the love they all have for each other. I felt in some ways I could relate to parts of the book not just as an adult and parent but also as a child growing up and as a wife just trying to get through. The emotion in the pages is so raw and so real. I can’t say enough good things.

Kendra: Your book was amazing.

About the Author

Author Interview About The One We Forgot to Love: Meet Sandy Totten

Sandy Totten was born in Middle Musquodoboit, a beautiful valley in Nova Scotia, and sings the word Musquodoboit every time she spells it, taking her back to her high school team sport days.

Growing up, Sandy lived in many different communities thanks to her dad being a carpenter, building and selling their homes, and she would continue to do so after she married her husband Dave, who also was a carpenter by trade. After having three children, she convinced her husband to settle down and has resided in Belnan for the past seventeen years where she loves tending to her vegetable garden.

Her love for books was discovered when she picked up a copy of Anne of Green Gables on a trip to PEI when she was ten years old, and she has been an avid reader ever since. She loves getting lost in a story and has burnt many suppers because of this. Sandy always dreamed of publishing her own stories someday and decided to take a leap of faith and share a story that she hopes resonates with readers.

Learn more about Sandy by visiting her website: The Official Website of Sandy Totten.